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CHANGE IS SCARY

Adjusting it’s not easy it’s never going to be easy even if it looks that way. The people who say they adjusted easily are just lying to themselves. We all struggle at first to except change and figure out who we are in new environments and situations. Even if you’re confident going into something doesn’t mean you didn’t struggle prior and it doesn’t mean that you don’t have that little anxious feeling. Change is scary because you have to learn how to care for that new thing that comes into your life. Change is always good, at first it’s scary and nobody really wants to go through it but what’s meant to be is whats meant to be. Holding yourself back from something that you want to do but you fear that it might mess things up results in you sabotaging your happiness. Deep down you all know what you want do with your lives and you all know how you feel no matter how numb you might be to it but hiding your emotions and not being honest with your own self to protect other people is just throwing yourself under the bus and it’s holding you back from the life that you could be having and creating. Sometimes no matter how much we love a person and we wouldn’t do anything to hurt them but yet we’re struggling with own selves we need to realize and come to terms with the fact that it’s OK to slow down and focus on ourselves. To not rush in to anything and if we can’t fully love ourselves then maybe we’re not ready to love somebody else. It’s important to be aware of the fact that being in a new environment, relationship, friendship, and more can sometimes affect our mental health because we get so caught up in the fact of other peoples lives and what we’re doing for those people that we lose who we are and what we’re meant to do. But even if you want to take a step back even if you want to do things for yourself it doesn’t mean you need to lose those people it just means that you need to focus on who you are right now and for the people that don’t understand that and won’t except that change aren’t worth having in your life. Some people aren’t ready for a change and that’s OK but when you need to make a change to your life don’t hold back for other people do what you need to do in that moment and in that time for your self. At the end of the day we are our own best friend we know ourselves better than anybody else knows and no matter how many times we ask somebody for advice or what you should do at the end it all comes down to you. YOU are the moment YOU are the change and YOU need to realize that your life and your emotions are far more important than protecting others. Don’t get caught up in the fact that you feel bad for people when you know how much it’s affecting you. I know it’s hard to confront people and accept your emotions even when you don’t want to feel that way. Facing your fears, facing how you feel, it’s scary but it’s important to do so because holding them back is even more painful and nobody wants that for themselves. So yeah change is difficult but when you do it for yourself and you do it your way it may not be so scary after all and that adjustment to your life may be just what you need.